7 Steps to Being a Happy Person

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“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln

 

We all want to be happier than we are now, but what does it take? What does “being happy” actually look like? Here are some tips that will help you be happier than you are right now!

Be Grateful

One of the best ways to combat any unhappiness to negativity is to be grateful for what is going right in your life. Good friends, family members, jobs, homes, even just the simple things in life like nice weather and flowers in the lawn. Appreciating and focusing on all of these things makes the bad things fade away. Don’t focus on the bad, train your mind to focus on the good!

Stop the Hatin’

Have you ever noticed that some people in life are just always negative? There’s always something wrong, there’s always something happening to prevent them from doing what they want, and nothing is good enough? Well those are just perspectives. To be happier sometimes, you have to change your perspective about life. For one, don’t try to “keep up with the Joneses”. Evern research shows that it negatively impacts your life and well being if you compare yourself to others. No one’s lives are going to be the same, but that doesn’t mean yours isn’t as good as others!

 Comparing yourself to others breeds jealousy which is a complete opposite to the whole happiness factor in life which is what we’re going for, right??

On the same note, don’t allow yourself to think negative thoughts about yourself either. It’s hard when society pushes so many expectations on us but really, being down on yourself about anything never helps. What helps is positive thinking, and making a plan. If there’s something you need to fix in life, then make a plan to accomplish it, and follow the plan! Don’t be harsh on yourself. No one is perfect and all we can do is try the best we can!

Reach Out to Your Loved Ones

Close, positive relationships with others helps provide a sense of belonging, combats loneliness, and helps us feel a sense of security.

Especially if you’re struggling with something in life, reach out to friends and family and get out of the house. Reach out to them for support. Remember that they care about you and often have good advice and would love to help you cope and get through the tough times.

On a similar note, pay attention to those that aren’t supportive or that make you feel bad or stressed. Those are detrimental to your life and well being. You don’t need that! Make sure that everyone you spend time with make you feel good, not bad. If you feel bad, they are not your real friends and try to avoid them if possible.

Meditate

Meditation is a method for either clearing your mind for a period of time, or of focusing your thoughts for a period of time, depending on your goals. Daily meditation has a tremendous number of benefits encompassing mental, emotional, and physical.

 Meditation reduces stress, improves clarity of thought and concentration, and enhances emotional well being.

I will be posting a more in depth article next week on meditation, but to start just find a quiet, relaxing environment and close your eyes and practice clearing your thoughts for at least five minutes per day. It feels really hard at first, but only with practice does it get easier!

Exercise

Exercise is one of those things that we see and hear a hundred times of day that it’s good and to do it and I’m not going to say anything different. We’ve all heard every reason why, so I’m going to focus on the actual doing!

 Find a good time of day (first thing in the morning is usually the best time) and just get started. Take a walk, lift some weights, drag out that DVD that hasn’t been used for ages. Your choice! The most important thing is do do it though.

You’ll better when you’re done!

Don’t Worry, Be Happy!

Lastly, don’t worry, be happy about the future. You never know what’s really gong to happen, and worrying about what might happen can ruin your whole present. Which becomes your past! So son’t let anything uncertain sour your memories. Stop and smell the roses, enjoy your current surroundings, and stay focused on hat’s currently going on in your life.

This list is by no means comprehensive, but it provides some basic building blocks to start on improving quality and happiness of life. There are many things to do from here which I will continue to post about but for now, follow the next steps. And join the newsletter where you will get notified of the upcoming 21 Days to Happiness free e-course!

Next Steps:

Create a daily journal to document everything you did or experienced that was positive that day. Anything from this post, or anything at all in life!

Also document negative thoughts and where they are coming from, and what you can do to try to counter them.

And finally write down what you’re grateful for every day. This journal will turn into the greatest resource for figuring out life problems (and what you need to do about them) and a continuous log of everything that is wonderful in your life which is invaluable!

   

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Comments

  1. What a great post! It’s so easy to get caught up with all the stress of life, especially this time of year. You provide a simple roadmap for achieving more happiness. I’ve been on a bit of an emotional roller-coaster lately and this helps me to re-focus on those things that I’ve been ignoring. Especially being grateful and making sure that I exercise every day. It’s easy to let these things slip and finding excuses not to do them. Enough! I’m committed to writing down what I’m grateful for every day this week. I’m also going to make sure that I move and exercise every day this week. Thanks for these simple reminders for regaining a little more happiness! 🙂

  2. We know these things work…we know they will make us feel better…yet for some reason it’s so easy to forget that they help and get us out of dark places. Thanks for the much needed reminders Wendy!

  3. I love what you said about Stop the Hatin’. I believe comparison is the root of all evil- well, for me personally it is evil and brings up nothing but negative thoughts and feelings.
    I am a “realist”, as I like to call it- my husband says I’m negative. I’ve been working on these things so much over the past year, and I can tell that it’s made a difference. I used to wonder how I could be grateful when so many things were going wrong or not the way I’d like them to. But I gradually stopped judging myself all the time, and began just observing. Slowly, the negativity has decreased and I am able to see the positive much more easily. It ebbs and flows, but overall it’s much better now.
    Great tips!

  4. So simple, yet takes effort…as do so many things in life that are worth it. I’ve been resisting meditation for a long time and it keeps coming up! It’s time to take a serious look at why that is, and I look forward to your upcoming post on the subject.

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