7 Steps to Being a Happy Person

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“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln


We all want to be happier than we are now, but what does it take? What does “being happy” actually look like? Here are some tips that will help you be happier than you are right now!

Be Grateful

One of the best ways to combat any unhappiness to negativity is to be grateful for what is going right in your life. Good friends, family members, jobs, homes, even just the simple things in life like nice weather and flowers in the lawn. Appreciating and focusing on all of these things makes the bad things fade away. Don’t focus on the bad, train your mind to focus on the good!

Stop the Hatin’

Have you ever noticed that some people in life are just always negative? There’s always something wrong, there’s always something happening to prevent them from doing what they want, and nothing is good enough? Well those are just perspectives. To be happier sometimes, you have to change your perspective about life. For one, don’t try to “keep up with the Joneses”. Evern research shows that it negatively impacts your life and well being if you compare yourself to others. No one’s lives are going to be the same, but that doesn’t mean yours isn’t as good as others!

 Comparing yourself to others breeds jealousy which is a complete opposite to the whole happiness factor in life which is what we’re going for, right??

On the same note, don’t allow yourself to think negative thoughts about yourself either. It’s hard when society pushes so many expectations on us but really, being down on yourself about anything never helps. What helps is positive thinking, and making a plan. If there’s something you need to fix in life, then make a plan to accomplish it, and follow the plan! Don’t be harsh on yourself. No one is perfect and all we can do is try the best we can!

Reach Out to Your Loved Ones

Close, positive relationships with others helps provide a sense of belonging, combats loneliness, and helps us feel a sense of security.

Especially if you’re struggling with something in life, reach out to friends and family and get out of the house. Reach out to them for support. Remember that they care about you and often have good advice and would love to help you cope and get through the tough times.

On a similar note, pay attention to those that aren’t supportive or that make you feel bad or stressed. Those are detrimental to your life and well being. You don’t need that! Make sure that everyone you spend time with make you feel good, not bad. If you feel bad, they are not your real friends and try to avoid them if possible.


Meditation is a method for either clearing your mind for a period of time, or of focusing your thoughts for a period of time, depending on your goals. Daily meditation has a tremendous number of benefits encompassing mental, emotional, and physical.

 Meditation reduces stress, improves clarity of thought and concentration, and enhances emotional well being.

I will be posting a more in depth article next week on meditation, but to start just find a quiet, relaxing environment and close your eyes and practice clearing your thoughts for at least five minutes per day. It feels really hard at first, but only with practice does it get easier!


Exercise is one of those things that we see and hear a hundred times of day that it’s good and to do it and I’m not going to say anything different. We’ve all heard every reason why, so I’m going to focus on the actual doing!

 Find a good time of day (first thing in the morning is usually the best time) and just get started. Take a walk, lift some weights, drag out that DVD that hasn’t been used for ages. Your choice! The most important thing is do do it though.

You’ll better when you’re done!

Don’t Worry, Be Happy!

Lastly, don’t worry, be happy about the future. You never know what’s really gong to happen, and worrying about what might happen can ruin your whole present. Which becomes your past! So son’t let anything uncertain sour your memories. Stop and smell the roses, enjoy your current surroundings, and stay focused on hat’s currently going on in your life.

This list is by no means comprehensive, but it provides some basic building blocks to start on improving quality and happiness of life. There are many things to do from here which I will continue to post about but for now, follow the next steps. And join the newsletter where you will get notified of the upcoming 21 Days to Happiness free e-course!

Next Steps:

Create a daily journal to document everything you did or experienced that was positive that day. Anything from this post, or anything at all in life!

Also document negative thoughts and where they are coming from, and what you can do to try to counter them.

And finally write down what you’re grateful for every day. This journal will turn into the greatest resource for figuring out life problems (and what you need to do about them) and a continuous log of everything that is wonderful in your life which is invaluable!


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The Surprising Connection Between Journaling and Health

The Surprising Connection Between Journaling and Health


I am a thinker.

A non-stop, can’t-quiet-my-mind type of a thinker.

At times, I completely miss the first half of what someone says to me because I’m still caught up completing the thought my mind was currently on.

So much to do, so much to contemplate, so much to decide! So much to remember, so much to

Thinking too much to think???

Yes. Absolutely. I can’t stop. I go round and round and round and at the end of the day, my thoughts are a jumbled mess of what I need to think about again tomorrow.

Does this sound like you?

Fear not, my thinkers – there is a solution to the madness.

Step in: Journaling

Journaling is a soul-soother. Journaling expresses all of your thoughts and feelings and emotions, and plans, heartaches, every all at once. It gets it down on paper (or if you’re the electronic type like me, on the screen) and gives you the chance to express it, look it over, and release it all.

De-Clutter Your Mind

Getting everything down on a media does something for our brains – it clears it of whatever is going round and round and round. Our minds can only hold and remember so much at once. Journaling gets it all down so that your mind doesn’t have to remember it all anymore. It’s there in front of you if you ever needed it again!

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Organize Your Thoughts

Journaling allows our minds to express everything in all of its glorious complexity. Doing this however, does the opposite of putting out a garbled mess, it actually engages parts of our brains that organize it all, makes sense of it, makes conclusions from it. Awakens it to more things that you may not have even thought you were thinking! Related topics. Emotional topics. How we are feeling about how our days went. Which brings us to the next benefit…

Journaling Heals Your Feelings

Journaling is an avenue of expression that doesn’t harm others. It’s private, therefore we can say whatever we are truly feeling without hurting relationships, and getting ourselves into trouble. We can’t just bottle everything up inside – that’s harmful to us. We don’t want either one of those scenarios! So journaling is a safe expression of our thoughts and feelings – one that helps us contemplate it all, to make decisions on for later.

Journaling Helps Solve Your Problems

Documenting your every thought and feeling and events of the day helps your brain sort it out, categorize it, and relate it all. Feel down today but don’t know why? You have it all in writing. In a spectacular day? Those are usually more obvious but you have it in writing as well! Feeling stressed? How’s your week been? Not only does journaling give you the writing itself to pour over to see what the deal is, but it internally helps your brain sort it our without realizing it. It helps create awareness of what is going on, who you’re around, how people affect you, the environment affects you, how events affect you. It’s an insightful thing!

It Records Your Life!

Journalizing is also like a text-based photo album. How many memories have we lost over the course of our lifetimes, only to be remembered later when we see a photo or smell a particular smell? Then there’s that “oh yeah!!” moment! How much do we lose without something like a photo to document it?

With daily journaling, it’s easy to skim over it all and remember life events, people and  occasions. It’s especially easy with software in this era where entries can be tagged, categorized, and we can even insert pictures into it to make it complete.


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